Everyone else already said everything of value so I'll just shitpost some personal experience.
>don't care if I meet her or not, just be amazing, myself and aim to have fun
>meet her because I'm really shining as a person
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>another grill, thoughtforms and fap to her sending my feels actively, almost obsessively
>fucked her up beyond what she was, harmful
>when she's drunk she throws herself at me, when sober be mean
>decide she's not mature enough for the relationship I want anyway
>ended up hurting her, altough I did help her sort some of her shit (we were meant to meet)
Poor girl.
>girl on Facebook, looks cute, bit skinny for my taste but in period of tumbling down, fapping to facebook friends and friends of friends, cum to her thought of her choking on my dick, as usual instictively se d energy to her because fapping is better when there's a bond of some kind
>completely forget her
>month later friend (girl) mentions she's mentioned me to her friend, talks about her, apparently she's a medium and sensitive (have not met her yet, don't know what she's capable of but apparently she and male friend goes ghostbusting), girl I came at was apparently ecstatic when friend mentioned me and me being spiritual (explained god and souls in tgree sentences or so when drunk once)
>both the girls want us to meet
Anything can float your boat, just different results.
I've found it best to have zero expectation and focus on being your best self, it will surprise you positively and you will find someone compatible in a natural manner.
Another good thing is to align with already having, you'll have the confidence of someone already in a healthy relationship and exude all positive attributes which are the basics of a relationship.