Then stop giving them so much of your energy. Rewrite the story of your life until it's something you don't hate. Pretend to yourself that you come from the kind of circumstances your ideal person would come from until that becomes the story of your life. As for others, they only exist if you psychically write it that way, if that makes sense.
As for life reviews, your attachments to the notion of the past are perhaps too high for your liking. If you keep looking back, your dead self might retain the impulse, it depends on your circumstances. Certainly the Chick Tract-esque "let's tally your sins" stuff is just a shitty rewrite of Egyptian hierarchies bastardized by a monotheistic impulse, you really don't have to bother with any of it if you would rather narrate a different hereafter.